LADIES GUIDE: Understanding guys for a better you.

When on the ladder of success, don't let boys look up your dress!

How to make a guy fall in love is a feeling in men that women have tried to learn for years. Women have fallen in love with a guy that never did feel the same way about her. I do not care who you ask for advice, they all have different answers to what makes a guy fall in love with you. It is not rocket science, when a woman knows what she is doing, she will see what she needs to do to appeal to the man she wants.

When you make a man notice how much better he feels when he is with you, you are well on your way of how to make a guy fall in love. When you get him to feel better about himself, you are opening a part of his heart that has the love in it. One way this is done, is to find something about him you like a lot and praise him for it. Never go over board with this, just be truthful with him, and just let him know you appreciate this about him.

One last tip to give you is that you want to acquire the heart of a man is that you have to be unlike the other lady. When you think about having a guy plummet in love, you may think you need to dress up properly or play hard ball, will get his interest to you. Believe me, all unattached women are doing this. You want to be a woman standing on your own in the world, he will become aware of you. When you are talking to him make eye contact and be sincere and undemanding. Men love women who can be them selves and have fun no matter what.For in the end, we will conserve only what we love. WE will love only what we understand. We will understand only what we are taught. LOVE LOVE LOVE

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Mr. John Richard Barcelon Bascon, RN:
Pagkakataon nga Naman..!
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Pagkakataon nga Naman..!

By Richard Bascon

Minsan sa buhay ng isang tao, may isang taong darating na nilaan ng tadhana para sa kanya, ngunit sa pagdating ng tao na ito marami ang posibilidad na mangyari na dapat nating alamin. Sa mga posibilidad na ito nandirito ang posibilidad ng tunay na pagkakaibigan, ang pagiging sandalan at hingahan ng problema, posibilidad na magkaroon tau ng kagalit ngunit magpapatibay ng ating pagkatao, at ang posibilidad na magkaroon tayo ng isang paghanga o pag-ibig. Oo, pag-ibig nga! Ngunit sa lahat ng bagay kadalasan dito sa puntong ito tayo’y walang kasiguraduhan. Kasiguraduhan na kung magiging masaya ba tayo sa huli o sakit sa puso ang maidudulot nito sa atin. Lahat ng pag-ibig may sakit na naidudulot ngunit ito ay depende sa taong nagmamahalan, ito’y maaaring mapagusapan upang mapagtibay pa ang kanilang pagsasama o mauuwi na sa isang hangganan. Ngunit sa lahat ng nagmamahal hindi talaga maiiwasan ang masaktan pero ito’y pagsubok na kailangan nating pagdaanan upang mas tumibay ang ating pananalig sa larangan ng pag-ibig. Hindi lahat ng pag-ibig na masakit ay kailangan makaapekto sa atin, minsan ito’y magsisilbing gabay sa mga susunod pang panahon at yugto ng ating buhay sa larangan ng pag-ibig. Pero bakit may mga tao na handang sumugal para sa kanilang minamahal? Bakit may mga tao na kayang maging martir kahit na nasasaktan na sila? Sa larangan ng pag-ibig, ito’y maihahalintulad natin sa isang maluwag na daan o kalsada, bakit? Sa kadahilanan ang isang kalsada ay may dalawang daluyan may pasukan at labasan parang isang entablado na may ENTRANCE kung tawagin at EXIT. At hindi mawawala sa mga daan na ito ang lubak o mga baton a nakaharang. Mga harang na magsisilbing pagsubok sa buhay ng dalawang nagmamahalan na dapat nilang harapin at malampasan. Sa dahilan na ang pag-ibig ay binubuo ng dalawang tnilalang. Kung may nagmamahal may tanggap at sa pagtanggap nito ay parang kahera sa isang tindahan na kailangang suklian pero hindi lahat ay ganun. Sa kadahilanang ang pag-ibig ay walang katumbas. Ito’y maaari nating ihalintulad sa bayad pero siguraduhing ang pag-ibig na ating inaalay para sa isang tao ay mananatiling sobra sa inaasahan mo para may bumalik. Pero hindi ba’t hindi tama ang ganung kaisipan pagdating sa pag-ibig! Masama ang umasang may ibabalik saiyo kung wala namang maibabalik saiyo ang isang tao sa kadahilanang hindi niya kayang suklian ang pag-ibig na inilalaan mo para sa kanya.

Pero ano nga ba ang sabi ng tadhana tungkol sa pag-ibig na walang wakas? Mayroon nga bang ganoong klase ng pag-ibig? Siguro sa ilan mayroon, ayun ay para sa mga taong naniniwala sa tunay at wagas na pagmamahal. Ang mga posibilidad sa buhay ay maaring magturo sa atin ng aral upang tayo ay mas lalong tumibay at maging matatag sa hamon ng buhay. Na para sa susunod na may dumating na pag-ibig alam mo na ang iyong mga pagkakamali at nararapat gawin. Kaya lahat ng tao na dumarating sa ating buhay ay dapat nating pahalagahan maging sila’y maging kaaway natin, kaibigan, o kaisang puso man. Minsan lang darating ang mga tao na ito sa buhay natin kaya’t huwag nating palampasin lahat ng mga tao sa buhay natin maging sino man sila. Ang mas magandang gawin natin ay ang huwag pumili sa mga tao na darating sa ating buhay mayaman man o mahirap, may dating man o wala, may itsura man o pangit..mali!kasi dapat wala tayong konsepto ng pangit dahil kapag nagkaroon tayo ng bantayan sa buhay hindi na natin makikita ang maganda dahil mas lagi tayo maghahanap na MAS, dahil kung may MAS wala na tayong magagawa kung hindi ang magsukat ng magsukat sa bawat tao na darating sa bawat yugto ng ating buhay. Kung baga sa batayan eh wala ng papasa kung magkaganun man. Masakit ang magmahal kung minsan dahil tayo’y nasasaktan pero masarap magmahal kung mamahalin din tayo sa tamang panahon at tamang pagkakataon. Mabuti ang maghintay hindi ito nakakasama basta’t alam natin kung kalian tayo nararapat ng sumuko sa laban na alam na pala nating wala nang patutunguhan. Masakit pero kailangang tanggapin, kailangan nating lumaban at magmahal para sa ating sarili, dahil baka hindi na natin mapansin tayo ay unti-unti nang nauubos, dahil wala na tayong pagmamahal sa mga sarili natin. Hanggang sa dumating ang punto na ang taong nararapat para sa atin ay wala nang matatanggap sa kadahilanang wala na tayong maibigay dahil ubos na tayo. Kaya mabuting magtira para sa sarili hindi sa pagiging makasarili pero para sa ikakabuti ng dalawang panig.

Ang pagtitira ng pagmamahal sa sarili ay maraming maitutulong, hindi lamang ang pagkakaroon pa ng maibibigay sa ibang tao na darating sa atin upang mahalin tayo, ngunit pati na rin sa atin upang tayo’y tulungang makalimot sa mga sakit na ating nadama at upang tayo’y magkaroong ng puso upang magpatawad sa mga tao na naging dulot ng ating pighati at pagdadalamhati sa ating kabiguan sa pag-ibig. Kaya’t sa bawat tao na nasaktan nang dahil sa pag-ibig..kayo’y huwag mawalan ng pag-asa dahil dapat tayong magtiwala at maniwala na may isang tao na nakalaan at darating para lamang sa atin….!

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LOVE VS FRIENDSHIP
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Love vs Friendship

by: Richard Bascon

Sa bawat pag-ikot ng mundo

May ka-akibat itong pagbabago

Maging sa liwanag man o sa kadiliman

At maging sa kasiyahan o kalungkutan man.

May mga bagay na di natin makita

At may mga bagay na di rin natin madama

Ngunit sa bawat pag-ikot nitong mundo

May kaakibat itong pagbabago sa buhay mo at buhay ko.

Sa bawat yugto ng ating buhay

May makikilala tayong magbibigay kulay

Maaring mapunta tayo sa mundo ng kaliwanagan

O maari din naming sa mundo ng karimlan.

May mga tamang panahon na dapat hintayin

Mga panahon na kailangan harapin

Mga bagay na kailangang tiisin

Para sa ikabubuti ng ispan at damdamin.

Isipan na minsan ay sadyang magulo

Katulad na lamang ng isang trumpo.

Ngunit isipan ay lalong magulo

Kapag puso’y nagsimulang malito.

Sa bawat hakbang na ating ginagawa

Pwedeng mabuti o masama

Ngunit sa huli ito’y matatapos din

Sa isang desisyong mula sa puso at damdamin.

Minsan ay puso, minsan ay isip

Di natin mapagsabay gamitin para sa iisang layunin

Dahil sa kung minsan ito’y maykasakitan

Dahil sa puso ito’y may kahirapan.

Mahirap magmahal sa isang kaibigan

Dahil ang mundo niyo ay sadyang may kaibahan

Kaibahan na dapat pangalagaan

Na maaring mawala sa isang iglap lamang.

Pagmamahal na minsa’y di mapigilan

Dahil sa kaniyang katangian.

Katangian na saiyo’y nagbibigay kulay

Sa iyong madilim at malungkot na buhay.

Buhay na minsa’y iyong inasam

Ngunit hindi naman mapagbigyan

Dahil sa inyong pagkakaibigan

Kaya’t pagmamahal ay pilit iwasan.

Pag-iwas na iyong sinasadya

Upang siya saiyo’y huwag nang mawala

Pagmamahal na iyong pilit tinatago

Para sa buhay niyo’y walang pagbabago.

UNTITLED: Part III

"UNTITLED: Part III"
by: ZAFIRO

Time.Yes. No doubt it's golden.
The thing that can never be frozen.
It's precious for us to sold.
It's ending not yet unfold.

So treasure it while you still have it.
Don't waste it like it was a piece of meat.
Show your love. Don't be shy.
Because you can never bring back the time that has gone by.

UNTITLED: Part I

Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true. Sometimes it really hurts when someone leaves you. Here is a poem made by a friend.

"UNTITLED: Part I"
by: ZAFIRO

You used to love me night and day.
You said, you'll never leave. forever you'll stay.
You made promises that made me smile.
That love remains as time goes by.


But when yours fade.. You became so cold.
I start to cry but insist to hold.
The pain keeps on cutting my veins.
My heart's bleeding and full of stains.


Learning to see the unseen
I guess, that's how reality begins.
Now, I have nothing to do but to accept.
Accept the fact that there's no love left.

LOVE: Complex or Simple?

Since the start of time, people have searched for the meaning of love. But even the great philosophers, with their profound definitions, could not fully touch its true essence. When I was young it’s the usual question ask in an autograph by my classmates. I was really fun writing on their autographs. I just realize then that somehow at the young age I have a simple but deep grasp of that four-letter word. Ha! Ha! Ha! It’s kind of funny when I read all of that stuff. Anyway what is love for us? I have a friend having a problem dealing with his partner. It’s really hard to keep a relationship…this is for the two of you…

1 Corinthians

Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong,
but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things;
believes all things; hopes all things; endures all things.

IN CHEMISTRY:

Biological models of sex tend to view love as a mammalian drive, much like hunger or thirst. Helen Fisher, a leading expert in the topic of love, divides the experience of love into three partly-overlapping stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. Lust exposes people to others, romantic attraction encourages people to focus their energy on mating, and attachment involves tolerating the spouse long enough to rear a child into infancy.Lust is the initial passionate sexual desire that promotes mating, and involves the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen. These effects rarely last more than a few weeks or months. Attraction is the more individualized and romantic desire for a specific candidate for mating, which develops out of lust as commitment to an individual mate forms. Recent studies in neuroscience have indicated that as people fall in love, the brain consistently releases a certain set of chemicals, including pheromones, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin, which act similar to amphetamines, stimulating the brain's pleasure center and leading to side-effects such as an increased heart rate, loss of appetite and sleep, and an intense feeling of excitement. Research has indicated that this stage generally lasts from one and a half to three years.Since the lust and attraction stages are both considered temporary, a third stage is needed to account for long-term relationships. Attachment is the bonding which promotes relationships that last for many years, and even decades. Attachment is generally based on commitments such as marriage and children, or on mutual friendship based on things like shared interests. It has been linked to higher levels of the chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin than short-term relationships have. In 2005, Italian scientists at Pavia University found that a protein molecule known as the nerve growth factor (NGF) has high levels when people first fall in love, but these levels return to as they were after one year. Specifically, four neurotrophin levels, i.e. NGF, BDNF, NT-3, and NT-4, of 58 subjects who had recently fallen in love were compared with levels in a control group who were either single or already engaged in a long-term relationship. The results showed that NGF levels were significantly higher in the subjects in love than as compared to either of the control groups.

IN PSYCHOLOGY:

Psychology depicts love as a cognitive and social phenomenon. Psychologist Robert Sternberg formulated a triangular theory of love and argued that love has three different components: intimacy, commitment, and passion. Intimacy is a form in which two people share confidences and various details of their personal lives. Intimacy is usually shown in friendships and romantic love affairs. Commitment, on the other hand, is the expectation that the relationship is permanent. The last and most common form of love is sexual attraction and passion. Passionate love is shown in infatuation as well as romantic love. All forms of love are viewed as varying combination of these three components. Following developments in electrical theories, such as Coulomb's law, which showed that positive and negative charges attract analogs in human life, were developed, such as "opposites attract". Over the last century, research on the nature of human mating has generally found this not to be true when it comes to character and personality; people tend to like people similar to them. However, in a few unusual and specific domains, such as immune systems, it seems that humans prefer others who are unlike themselves (e.g. with an orthogonal immune system), since this will lead to a baby which has the best of both worlds. In recent years, various human bonding theories have been developed described in terms of attachments and ties.

I am may not a great person to say this but I have been in loved and been hurt before. I’ve been into several relationships and most likely all of those are unsuccessful. There are several reasons that ended up those relationships. Good or bad, the good thing about it is that I am happy now and even better. I may don’t have the authority to say this but somehow I have this huge and great learning with those relationships I have before. I am single now, living my self in accordance to my plan. Well it doesn’t mean that I will not engage my self to be in love or take into another relationship. I am open to it and well, not rushing things. I believe it will come in the right time with the right person.

Back to where should I be, again I have this friends whose relationship right now is in total chaos. Both of them are my friends and I really don’t know what went wrong. The other one wanted to end up everything and the other one is still in love with the other who is willing to settle things. I am a peer counselor before when I am college and I tried to guide them by not giving them advices what to do. As a guidance counselor you are not invoke for an advice but to guide them accordingly. Each and every one of us may have the same situation or should I say somewhat similar but the course of action on that particular situation might not be applicable to the other. So I guess I just want them to realize and made every decisions by themselves. Its easy to say if your not in that situation, but you ever thought that if you are caught in that situation you feel so damn stupid not to be able to solve that problem. It’s just normal; you are in that high emotional status where in emotions keep your critical thinking unstable. When I was in that situation when my partner wanted to rid off me, I really don’t know what to do asking and blaming myself what I have done. You feel so down seems your world turn upside down. You keep on thinking things what lack in your relationship, what you have done that person wanted their freedom? Its kind of hard for me, I feel I’ve been used just like clothes you can throw after you are over with it. Damn! It so hard that you can’t accept the fact that person doesn’t love you anymore recalling the first time you indulge your selves with "I LOVE YOU" everyday. Reminiscing how they promise each other that you will love each other till the end. I just don’t know if there are really people who are just like that or maybe it’s just me who think that. I tried to balance everything and tried to understand. To them they have nothing to say about me, I’ve been so damn good about the relationship but how come? What is the problem? I guess there are just relationships you need to have to experience pain and be a stronger person in the relationship you have. Some sort of a trial and error method, you keep on learning and learning and learning.

I have also experience a long distance relationship and been accused of being unfaithful for having been a friend in their place. How could that be? I made a chat with this person and we begin to have a little connection but that is not what you think to be intimate. I just wanted to burn time and the fact that I am clear about myself, my priority and my partner of course. Actually what really happened is that they meet up, the two of them. I was really upset about it maybe I’m jealous and I guess it’s just normal. The worst is I one the one accused of unfaithfulness. It’s really painful for me, I tried to fight about that but I was neglected and abandoned. I was left behind. And after several months I just know that they are already together. But I did not disagree with it and accept the fact. It hurts but I have nothing to do about it.

Guess what, we became friends. LOL! And the truth is there the one I’m talking about having problem with their relationship right now. Should I be glad about it? I may sound hypocrite but the truth is I’m not, I’m a little bit sad and I am hoping that they would be able to solve it if not they should settle in a nice way. Just like my other exes, I’ve been good and a friend with them already. It feels so good when you don’t have any hatred in your heart. You can fully live a happier life, a good one. Loving someone is taking a risk; you should be prepared your self to the worst. Every relationship doesn’t end in marriage nor last a lifetime. I guess the important things there is how you deal with it, how you handle it and hove you fight for it. I may be hurt several times but the chance to love and be loved is greater for me. Touching ones life and extending ones life to another is a great gift you can offer. Again love may be in different ways, may vary. In this case, we are being captivated and amazed by this wonderful feeling. It’s a circle of life, we stumble and fall and then we stand up high. We fall and rise, we learn!

The primary aspect of love is that it can help heal the wrongs of the world. While relationships change and the goals behind them alter with time, people will still need love. Love needs to be present to help discern the positive and negative aspects of this ever-changing world. Without love, the changes we make in our lives are meaningless.

ZODIAC COMPATIBILITY, Guide in Finding Your Compatible Partner.

Zodiac Compatibility: Please TAKE NOTE: Finding That Someone may not be Totally Dependent on This Topic.

What if someone came and told you that they could predict the future of your relationship.. wouldn't that get your attention? Of course it would! A romantic relationship is full of ups and downs and if someone could tell you how to handle things better it would definitely interest you. There are many things you look for in a partner and one of the most important things you seek is compatibility. Being compatible with your lover is one of the most essential parts of a relationship and this is why most people seek to find out their zodiac compatibility.

There are two kinds of compatibility that can exist in a romantic relationship, one is the level of compatibility on a personal level and the other is zodiac compatibility. Zodiac compatibility is determined on the basis of zodiac sign of a person. There are twelve signs of the zodiac which are compatible with certain other zodiacs signs which are known as their star partners:

Taurus- is compatible with Capricorn, Virgo, Cancer and Pisces Gemini- is compatible with Leo, Libra, Aries and Aquarius Cancer- is compatible with Virgo, Scorpio, Taurus and Pisces Leo- is compatible with Sagittarius, Aries, Gemini and Libra Virgo- is compatible with Capricorn, Cancer, Taurus and Scorpio Libra- is compatible with Aquarius, Gemini, Leo and Sagittarius Scorpio- is compatible with Virgo, Cancer, Pisces and Capricorn Sagittarius- is compatible with Aquarius, Leo, Aries and Libra Capricorn- is compatible with Virgo, Scorpio, Taurus and Pisces Aquarius- is compatible with Aries, Libra, Gemini and Sagittarius Pisces- is compatible with Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Taurus Aries- is compatible with Sagittarius, Gemini, Leo and Aquarius The signs of the zodiac are determined by the time and the month of birth and are based on twelve different constellations. The zodiac signs have been named after the belt of constellations they fall under. People that fall under a certain zodiac sign are supposed of have certain kinds of personality traits that are characteristic of that particular zodiac. There are further divisions of the zodiac sign into the four elements of water, earth, fire and air. These divisions further determine certain kinds of personality types. When you want to determine zodiac compatibility you have to check for the level of compatibility between the zodiac sign of you and your partner, which means the compatibility of the personality types of you and your partner, according to zodiac signs. People of a certain zodiac sign are supposed to be more compatible with each other than signs. An example is the Zodiac sign of Virgo which is an earth sign and its star partner according to zodiac is supposed to be a Capricorn. A star partner according to zodiac prediction is a person belonging to a particular zodiac sign that is supposed to be perfectly compatible with another person of a particular zodiac sign.